Do you feel like there’s no hope in life? And that you’re obliged to work for 40+ years to finally retire one day?
Or the opposite – that life is only for fun at weekends, partying like there’s no tomorrow, taking drugs, drinking liters of alcohol, and then suffering the rest of the week?
Neither of these kinds of thinking is right.
There’s the 3rd way of the growth mindset, of striving to get better. You just need the right people around you to guide you and enforce that kind of mindset in you.
How to gather these people?
Surround yourself with the Right People
You’ve heard that quote – you are the average of 5 people. Who are the people that you spend most of your time with? You can easily define it by looking at your calendar.
If you think that you’re just born rich or successful – forget about it. It’s a lie. That’s called a fixed mindset.
Choose the growth mindset instead, which suggests that you can become successful by making the right choices in your life.
One of these choices is choosing the right people that influence you.
Does anybody support you?
You can find other ambitious people in your area. It might be a local gym, cafe. Maybe there’s an old friend of yours that you haven’t talked for a while. You would like to continue your relationship with him but you tell yourself you don’t have time to reach out to him/her. Or you’re scared of approaching him.
Or – you can suggest doing something interesting with your friends – instead of drinking alcohol till you’re done. Maybe that’s a good idea. Maybe there’s more to your relationship. You can invite him/her to go to the gym or talk about some interesting project or problem or even start an ambitious project with that person. Think about it.
Think about how influential going to the gym together with your friend would be.
Maybe there are no ambitious people in your area. Maybe there’s no one to support you.
Don’t worry – you can change that.
Being Influenced Online
You can achieve a lot in your life. And you can learn that from many places on the internet from the many people that were broke, who had nothing, and they achieved success and meaning in life.
You will find this inspirational information in books, podcasts, audiobooks.
You can even find something like the Viktor Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning, who survived the death camps and find meaning in there.
There are peoples who can overcome almost any circumstances as Nietzsche told us in his great quote:
He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.– Friedrich Nietzsche
So you can prevail in many bad situations.
That’s the only way for you to get power to be inspired to be lifted above anything, any other problems. You can do a lot by yourself but you cannot do everything. You need other people to support you as well.
Even if there are no people around you to support you. You can gain support for the internet for books for podcasts for motivation, motivational quotes.
I’m listening to podcasts, almost every day.
It’s the only way for me to get knowledge and also inspiration from ambitious people who achieve a lot. And when I see that other people achieve a lot I know that I can do that.
The sky is the limit.
What about if you choose the opposite?
The people who smoke, who drink too much alcohol party all the time, and then they complain that they can’t get what they want. They complain and complain. And then you become a part of it.
And you became become complain person as well. Don’t do that. Do me a favor and start listening to ambitious people.
They know what works.
So, how can you get to these people? I can recommend you few podcasts, but be free to choose them for yourself. You can also listen to audiobooks and other sources.
Read more books. Even 10 pages a day is a lot. It is 1 book per month. Just read for 10 minutes before bed. Anybody can do this. Or right after you wake up.
Don’t you have time to read books? Or you just don’t like it? Then choose audiobooks. You can take it even one step further and keep increasing your play speed. For example, I listen to podcasts and audiobooks at 1.5X speed and I understand everything. It saves me time and makes listening even more entertaining. You can listen to it while you are driving, doing household chores.
You can also learn a lot from newsletters from ambitious people (Here you can subscribe to mine).
When you follow enough people on your email, you will get a portion of inspiration that will improve your day and week.
Benefits of Applying This To Your Life
- Accountability – you will more likely do what you say you will
- Inspiration – you will get inspiration from other individuals
- Cooperation – dealing with the same problems and wanting to overcome those instead of bitching and wi
- Right kind of role model – instead of people who are partying all the time and are “cool”
- Competition – for example who will bench press more
What to do now?
Find a valuable podcast to listen to while you are doing chores.
Text/call somebody you find inspiring. Propose a meeting that would benefit and engage both of you – it might be even something like bowling.
“An idle brain is the devil’s workshop”
That’s why you need to be constantly planning the right seeds into your Brain. and getting rid of negative information that keeps you down.
Listening to the valuable, positive information and surrounding myself with the right people – this all keeps me fired to keep going. Despite the circumstances.
And I know that I can prevail. That I can be better. The bar is high.
So choose between these two options.
Do you want to feel down all the time? Or you choose to plant good seeds with books and podcasts. Think about it. The choice is yours.